What do you want? State the outcome as a positive - what you want, not what you don't want.

How will you know when you’ve got this? Sensory information only! What will you see, hear, feel, taste and smell when you have achieved your goal?

If you get it, what will you gain?

If you get it, what will you lose?

If you don’t get it, what will you lose?

If you don’t get it, what will you gain?

If you could have this right now, would you take it? Was that an instant "yes!" or was there any hesitation? If it's a "yes!" then you're well on your way to achieving it. If there was any hesitation or uncertainty, you may need to revise your goal as there could be downsides that you haven't yet considered.